Self-Management
“Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.”
– Aristotle
SELF-MANAGEMENT: The ability to manage one’s emotions, thoughts, and behaviors effectively in different situations and to achieve goals and aspirations.
Self-management means having a strategy and techniques to deal with a range of strong feelings or emotions in the moment (positive or negative). When military students are self-aware, they are prepared to regulate and control their emotions, delay gratification, minimize impulses, manage stress, and motivate themselves toward personal and academic goals. Self-management requires students to be proactive and to think about their response to strong feelings or emotions. Military children will grow in emotional intelligence as parents, teachers, and other youth-serving professionals model and teach these self-management skills:
- Managing one’s emotions
- Identifying and using stress management strategies
- Exhibiting self-discipline and self-motivation
- Setting personal and collective goals
- Using planning and organizational skills
- Showing the courage to take initiative
- Demonstrating personal and collective agency
Self-Advocacy Skills for Military-Connected Students
By being able to self-advocate, children can understand and communicate their needs. In this webinar, we discuss how parents can…
Perfectionism and Your Military Child
Aiming to be perfect can show up in many school-age children. In this webinar, we identify and discuss perfectionism and…
Strengthening Relationships during Military Transitions
This webinar summarizes the qualities that contribute to building a strong family and designs methods for strengthening family relationships throughout…
Developing Resilience through Mindfulness
The military lifestyle may place additional stress and challenges on children, and mindfulness is a key to overall wellbeing.Self-Management
Learn how to teach children ways to manage their feelings and turn them into positive actions, including creating a calm…Future-Self
Learn to help children think about what kind of a person they want to be in the future, to see…Handling Tantrums
Tantrums are tough for kids and parents, but there are ways to deal with them to help everyone cope with…Seeing, Showing, Sharing Emotions
Help your children express themselves with a strong feelings vocabulary.Feelings Color Zones
Labeling feelings is part of proven strategies that increase emotional regulation. “If you can name it, you can tame it!”Coping Through the Levels of Anger and Aggression
We all feel angry at times, but the goal is to feel content, satisfied, or grateful.EQ Quiz for Students
EQ is something that can be learned and improved upon. This “quiz” helps form an idea of where a student…Student EQ: Group Leader Assessment
This is a companion form to the “EQ Quiz for Students” and can be filled out as an assessment (or…Follow-Up Meeting Questionnaire
Holding a follow-up meeting within two weeks of completing the EQ lessons is a powerful way to reinforce and sustain…References:
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