Social Skills
“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.”
– Tony Robbins
SOCIAL SKILLS: The ability to establish and maintain healthy and supportive relationships and to effectively navigate diverse settings and group.
Social Skills include the personal ability to communicate clearly, actively listen, cooperate, collaborate to solve problems, negotiate conflict effectively, navigate differing social and cultural settings, provide leadership, and seek opportunities to be service-minded, and solution-focused. Examples include:
- Communicating effectively
- Developing positive relationships
- Demonstrating diverse and cultural awareness
- Practicing teamwork and collaborative problem-solving
- Resolving conflict constructively
- Resisting negative social pressure
- Demonstrating personal leadership skills in groups
- Focusing on solutions
- Finding opportunities to serve
- Championing the rights of others
“Every conflict we face in life is rich with positive and negative potential. It can be a source of inspiration, enlightenment, learning, transformation, and growth-or rage, fear, shame, entrapment, and resistance. The choice is not up to our opponents, but to us, and our willingness to face and work through them.”
– Kenneth Cloke
“Whether they stem from business or personal situations, our relationships are what support us, connect us, and allow us to progress in all aspects of our lives.”
– Michelle Tillis Lederman
Relationship Skills
Learn to help students develop key skills for successful relationships: communication, cooperation and conflict resolution.Your BEST Communication Skills
Using your BEST communication skills means using assertive body language, eye contact, speech, and tone of voice.Social Skills
Young children are social from the start of life, and they develop appropriate behavior based on what they see.Becoming an “Upstander”
When talking about bullying, you can also introduce the idea of “oops or ouch.”Helping Kids Resolve Conflict
Conflicts happen in any relationship. It’s how we resolve difficulties that matter. Kids can learn social skills by watching how…
Integrated Learning, Integrated Lives
Highlighting Opportunities for Transformative SEL Within Academic Instruction
District Resource Center – Casel
Created for leaders and educators in any district, the DRC offers research-based guidance and curated resources to help organize, implement,…Student Mental Health and Well-being
A review of evidence and emerging solutions, by CRPE Reinventing Public EducationEducator Well-Being as a Pathway Toward Investing in Education Staff
Insights from the Transformative SEL (tSEL) Adult Learning Series PilotGuidance on Supporting Classroom SEL
Schoolwide SEL helps students excel academically, build stronger relationships, and lead happier, healthier, more fulfilling lives.References:
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